Let's Start at the very beginning...Nina Simone/ Feeling Good

To look your absolute best,  choose to wear your best mood.  You need to be feeling good, positive, upbeat, optimistic, happy, content, sensual, invincible--perhaps just one of the aforementioned, perhaps an amalgam of all of the above. Music can definitely make you feel all of the above and then some. Pick a theme song, put a smile on your face and sing it loud and proud, create a dance--whatever positive actions you can take with your body and pair it with your "good-feeling" inducing song. A few times in a row would be optimal and make sure you play the song when you are dressing for a special occasion. Keep creating positive memories and experiences with the song. Here's one of my favorites. See if you don't feel like the sexiest girl in the world listening to Nina croon this tune. Doesn't matter if I'm in a bathrobe and fuzzy slippers, I am a formidable Goddess in the presence of this song. Here's hoping it does the same thing for you, you fabulous woman, you!
And p.s. please let me know how it goes, and feel free to put a plug in for your go-to song...